Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Prop 8 Victory and Sister Wives

*does the happy dance* Prop 8 has been deemed unconstitutional, HUZZAH! This is wonderful news as I am very pro LGBT. Hell, I am the "B" in LGBT. I think all people should have the right to love whom they want, be married to whom they want and create a family that suits THEM. Love is love no matter how you spin it. Also, since so many Gay and Lesbian couples choose to adopt, I would rather see children go into loving homes like that as opposed to stuck in "the system" until they are 18 and then told "Good Luck. Now get out." Holy tangent, Batman. Back to Prop 8. This now opens the door to a FEDERAL law deeming the Defense Of Marriage Act (DOMA) unconstitutional and opening the door for the Respect for Marriage Act (RMA). This is ALL very very VERY good news and my faith in (American) humanity is slowly being restored.

This leads also to my next topic, polygamy. Yep, I totally went there. I am just all around a poly kind of girl I guess, because on top of being Polytheist (many gods), I believe in Polyamory, too. Despite the mismatch of Greek and Latin terms, Polyamory is the belief that one can love more than one person AT THE SAME TIME. There are many forms of this, the most common being polygamy, one man with many wives. There are also cultures that practice polyandry, one woman with many husbands. I personally would LOVE to have a wife join our family but I want her to be MY wife in every since of the word, as well. None of this sister-wife stuff. ("B" in LGBT remember? That's a whole different rant for a different day.) I do love the show Sister Wives, though and I love the model of Polygamy that they show the world. They're just normal people with lots of love to go around. Kody isn't a misogynistic asshole, the women all came into the marriage willingly and with full disclosure, and the kids pretty much all get along. Yes there are fights, yes, there is jealousy. But show me ONE relationship of any kind that doesn't deal with those very same problems at one time or another.... Ward and June Cleaver DON'T count. Where am I going with this? Well, it seems that my favorite polygamist family is going to court to fight the bigamy laws. YAY!! Kody says in the intro to every show, "Love should be multiplied, not divided" and that just sings in my heart. How is MORE love ever a bad thing?

In the end, I believe that love in all it's many wonderful forms, will prevail. Someday we will learn to stay the heck outta each others bedrooms because at the end of the day it doesn't effect who you are as a person. More love for everyone!


Cora said...

I was over the moon when I read on Yahoo today about Prop 8 being over-thrown out here. When the stupid thing got passed I was so angry that CA could be so closed-minded. Aren't we supposed to be uber liberal out here?!

Anyways, LOVE this post and couldn't agree more. I have no problem with polyamory as long as all parties are treated with respect are are consenting adults going into it.

Katrina said...

I agree with absolutely everything you said! I too fall into the "B" Category, and I don't think another wife in the mix would be such a bad idea, but I think it would drive the hubby insane! He always says he has enough trouble keeping me happy!

And "Sister Wives" is awesome! Kody seems like such a sweet, easy-going guy, and the episode last season where Robyn had her baby reduced me to a quivering, sobbing mess! Kody was such a great labor coach, and baby Solomon is so cute!

polytheistmom said...

*squee* I love you ladies! This is the first time I've had a blog that anyone actually read much less commented on. This totally made my day.

Cora said...

Keep writing and I'll keep commenting. You have great topics!